Choosing a perspective on life’s challenges

Choosing a perspective on life's challanges

A choice to change perspective

I have and continue to, realize that it is my choice as to how I view the circumstances and challenges of my life. I can choose a negative one or a positive one. Now, I know that reframing my view and looking for the good is the best for my mental well-being and my soul, However, I do not find it easy. It takes me a lot of time. It is a process. Life has become quite challenging at the moment and I am in the struggle. There are increasing and unexpected gusts blowing into lives’ of my beloved and I right now and they seem to be arriving with increasing regularity, so we are faced with making a significant course alteration. That means I have to let go of hopes and expectations and face the prospect of my love one’s illness. Can I change my perspective on this? I don’t know is the honest answer.

The challenge that requires a perspective change

My partner and I have always been fit, healthy and active, but in these last few years that has begun to change. We have faced a few physical injuries but been able to overcome them. Hitting a coach head-on, was not our best move and slipping of the fourth step on the stairs to fracture my ankle a year later, was not particularly clever either. However, we healed, bones mended and we worked on strengthening the resultant physical weaknesses. However, now the storm of long-term illness has arrived. Its debilitating and energy snapping. A strength removing fog has descended and I cannot see the course ahead. Hospital appointments dominate our life at the moment and frustratingly with no answers to our questions are forthcoming. What exactly is this? Is it curable? How long will it take? What is the long-term prognosis? The silence is deafening.

Changing a perspective

The first step to change the perspective

So when I am struggling and I don’t have the energy to look for a positive, I take some time. I physically put myself in a different place. I literally change my view. Walking up hills and seeing the land around me is good while standing on the beach looking out to sea provides an uncluttered view of the horizon. Alternatively, and perhaps a much more dynamic way to change what you view is to lie on your back. We rarely take time to look up and watch the clouds roll by or simply enjoy a blue sky. I’ve never tried this in the rain or when it is snowing, but thinking about it now, it could be an interesting experience. If you do this, let me know?!

Then I admit to what I need while accepting that at this moment there will be no immediate answers only the start of a journey to finding a different perspective. Often these mindful times turn into writing poetry.

Some days are hammock days

And need companionship with a river.

Discreet, still and journeyed

Wise enough to hold a complexity of thoughts


Some days are hammock days

And need a vast expanse of blue

Strewn with shades of white clouds

Light enough to hold a wealth of imaginings


Some days are hammock days

And need a different vision

Underneath, sideways and slightly skewed

Brave enough to hold a disturbance of perspective.

Final thoughts

I have no easy answers to life’s challenges and the re framing of perspective, but my I offer this, a book I enjoyed reading The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by his holiness the Dalai Lama and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. I found inspiration from the words of these two men. I hope it helps and inspires you to!

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